I had a good chat with a sister who was a ex colleague on chat. She was just sharing about how people take relationship so lightly. She recently just ended her own relationship. She was sharing to me about her friend who got involved in someone elses family. Her friend became a boyfriend to a married women who has a 10 year old daughter. He is not the only boyfriend to this woman, apparently she has about this promicious lifestyle eventhough she has a loving husband who keeps forgiving her. A friend of mine has a unfaithful husband but she is a good lady which is the exact opposite. I spoke to this sister and find that it is so ironic. Wrong person with wrong partner. I come to think about my own relationship with Amy.
During courtship, it seems to be like a one sided affair with me doing alot of things to please her but always getting hurt. She is the smarter one, she spend her time studying. I spend my time dreaming,thinking of how to make her happy so that by doing them, she will be appreciate and accept me. But it did not happen. In fact it affected my whole life. My school work, my life revolve around her. As i grow older, i starts to wonder if it is all worthwhile. You must be wondering how long is this courtship and relationship lasted.
10 years of friendship, 7 years of courtship and 5 years of marriage. At least it landed up in marriage. Thank God, this love is not wasted. I am not saying that one sided love affair is no good but it can be painful, stressful and even miserable. One missed smses or period of silence means she don't love me. She got other guys..... , i am second priority. (Thank God all these only happen during the 10 years of my friendship and a couple of years during courtship.) After that she loves me with all her heart. Through it all, i know God's purpose for me, which is to walk with her through her struggles and her battle with cancer. To be faithful and committed to her through good times and bad. Not all relationship will end well like until death do us part.
This is something that i learn. Someone once told me, if a women loves a man, she will do anything for him, no matter how bad he is, she will stick by him, even to the extend of getting abuse. It is not all without truth, often times we read in newspaper too. But if the women does not love the man, no matter what he does, even if he dies for her, she will take it lightly. So for Kate, if someone loves you silly, please appreciate him. But if you don't like him, please let him know early and don't waste the poor boy's time, effort and love.
May God showers his grace as i continue to pray for you (Isaac) and you (Kate) for your spouses in future to be like your crazy father who loves your mother deeply and vice virsa. Do also understand that is a priviledge to be loved by someone and not take the person for granted. :)
During courtship, it seems to be like a one sided affair with me doing alot of things to please her but always getting hurt. She is the smarter one, she spend her time studying. I spend my time dreaming,thinking of how to make her happy so that by doing them, she will be appreciate and accept me. But it did not happen. In fact it affected my whole life. My school work, my life revolve around her. As i grow older, i starts to wonder if it is all worthwhile. You must be wondering how long is this courtship and relationship lasted.
10 years of friendship, 7 years of courtship and 5 years of marriage. At least it landed up in marriage. Thank God, this love is not wasted. I am not saying that one sided love affair is no good but it can be painful, stressful and even miserable. One missed smses or period of silence means she don't love me. She got other guys..... , i am second priority. (Thank God all these only happen during the 10 years of my friendship and a couple of years during courtship.) After that she loves me with all her heart. Through it all, i know God's purpose for me, which is to walk with her through her struggles and her battle with cancer. To be faithful and committed to her through good times and bad. Not all relationship will end well like until death do us part.
This is something that i learn. Someone once told me, if a women loves a man, she will do anything for him, no matter how bad he is, she will stick by him, even to the extend of getting abuse. It is not all without truth, often times we read in newspaper too. But if the women does not love the man, no matter what he does, even if he dies for her, she will take it lightly. So for Kate, if someone loves you silly, please appreciate him. But if you don't like him, please let him know early and don't waste the poor boy's time, effort and love.
I guess i should remember the above if i do start a new relationship. Not to be the one keep sacrificing and in the end, in the words of the song from Linkin Park, it doesn't really matters to the person.
May God showers his grace as i continue to pray for you (Isaac) and you (Kate) for your spouses in future to be like your crazy father who loves your mother deeply and vice virsa. Do also understand that is a priviledge to be loved by someone and not take the person for granted. :)
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